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Book

Rules of estrangement : why adult children cut ties and how to heal the conflict

Call Number

  • 306.874 C6925 (CEN)

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Edition

Harmony Books trade paperback edition.

Publication Information

New York : Harmony Books, 2024.

Physical Description

311 pages ; 21 cm

Summary

"A guide for parents whose adult children have cut off contact that reveals the hidden logic of estrangement, explores its cultural causes, and offers practical advice for parents trying to reestablish contact with their adult children"--

Notes

"Originally published in hardcover in the United States by Harmony, an imprint of Random House, a division of Penguin Random House LLC, in 2021"--Title page verso.

Contents

  • Introduction
  • Can I save the relationship with my estranged child?
  • The many pathways to estrangement
  • Married, divorced, estranged
  • Dealing with mental illness and addiction
  • Psychotheraphy and the curated childhood: "My therapist says you're a narcissist"
  • Flashpoints: gender identity, sexuality, religion, politics, and personality clashes
  • Sons-in-law, daughters-in-law, and the cult of one
  • When siblings estrange: the impact on their lives and those around them
  • The rules of money and estrangement: should I cut my child out of my will?
  • Abandoned grandparents and the weaponizing of grandchildren
  • Coping strategies, interventions, and your new normal
  • The adult child's perspective: new rules for parent-adult child reconciliation
  • How do I heal the pain of estrangement?
  • Afterword.

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